13.8.06
last night was my first time to a wake.
i've only seen it on the telly before,and i had this impression it's on for buddhists or sth.so i didnt know what to expect when i went to the wake of minnie's grandpa.
anyway,i was so anxious abt this first time to a wake that i went online in the aftnn to ask ppl abt the customs.i was told to wear black,which was pretty obvious coz they say so too on the telly.and then mum gave me money and she was like wondering aloud if we shld put it in red envelope or red packet.then finally telling me to just give the money to whoever's in charge.like,just give,no envelope or what.
yea so like i was worrying abt makin stupid mistakes like sayin the wrong things or accidentally performing an action that is not appropriate,like not saying amen or whatever.quite crappish thinking actually,but it was my first time!and this is a wake!though im still not sure what that means..
and then it’s like before I left home,I was wearing this bright pink hairband,and mum was like,take it off!and put on a black one!
and I was like,ok
sure,shall I change my bag too?coz im going to carry a
bright red one..but I did eventually change to a black hairband and ended up not carrying any bag,coz it was rather near home,and I only needed to bring my wallet and handphone.
i didnt know what to expect from a christian wake,and i was told it starts at 8p.m.and from what i learnt from telly,a wake is basically a time when ppl go and pay respects to the deceased and then stay to talk and stuffs (the telly drama i watched showed some bad ppl playing majong at someone's wake,but im sure that's not going to happen at a christian wake).
yarr.anyway,i figured if that was the case,it wouldn't matter what time i went as long as it's after 8pm,coz i also heard from a source that you just go and leave whenever you like.
umm yea so when jamie and i went there at around 8.45pm,dressed in black tops,we were like
sheet,sheet,SHEET.coz like we saw this group of ppl wearing WHITE.and im like,oh yar,DUH.white for purity or sth right!stupid us.
gosh i got the dresscode wrong!but then afterwards i talked to minnie and she said as long as it's dull colours can liaox,except mine had this whole patch of shiny,glittery...
stuff in the front.so yea.not sure if it’s exactly dull looking.
Anyway.
There was this pastor guy or someone giving some kindda speech abt the deceased,and when we arrived,he was ending off already.so like,it was quite embarrassing.like not sincere liddat.
I didn’t really understand why mum didn’t want to go to the wake,except she’s still upset abt her dad’s death.but when I passed the coffin in which minnie’s grandpa lay,I went ohmygosh..and then I cried.
He looks really peaceful and as though he was just sleeping.like,any minute he would just wake and say hi to me.i couldn’t look at him for longer than a few seconds coz it all looks so unreal.
I think I confused Minnie coz it was like her grandpa’s wake and there I was crying.
ANYWAY.
Jamie and I were kindly invited to stay for beehoon and curry chicken,and Minnie very warmly poured curry chicken and potato onto our plates because apparently she just knew that we wanted to eat.
Thanks Minnie.the curry was good.
So I talked to grace for a while after that,and then I remembered the money mum gave me,and things got a little embarrassing for me coz I didn’t know who to approach and what to do with it.
I mean,I was expecting some kind of reception area and someone would just approach me to sign and give the money or sth.
I didn’t want to just go up to someone and give the money,coz it’ll be quite strange wouldn’t it?and what would I say?
But apparently not,coz i asked Minnie and she just took me to zhixuan and there were ppl giving money
without envelope!
Haha.
GOSH.
I was such a silly willy.
All that fuss and stupidness!
Aiyaaa…
Ohwell.
First times always lead to stupid things.that’s what fun and exciting abt first times!(:
tranquility ; 8/13/2006 07:18:00 pm.
